HOW MUSIC HELPS US MAKE FRIENDS.
When I was in 7th grade, my best friend knew all the words to Blue's Traveller's hit song, "Hook". If you know the song, you can see how a 7th grader living in the mid 90's could be impressed by this feat.
When I discovered that Lindsey also owned the CD (yes, I did just date myself there) of "FOUR" (Blue's Traveller's breakout album), I knew we would be besties.
She and I would lay on her full size bed and replay the song over and over again. Lindsey would sing the words perfectly each time as I marveled. Truth be told, I was grateful that I had friend who didn't mind playing Blue's Traveller over and over again. Together, we pinky swore to remain their loyal fans forever...
Music has a magical way of connecting us to others. When children/ middle school age students begin to identify their musical tastes, they have a tendency to align themselves with other musically like-minded peers. I can still remember when I met a girl at camp who was listening to Lisa Loeb on her Discman. I distintcly remember saying to her, "Oh my god! Lisa Loeb! We should be friends!"
Even as an adult, looking to make new friends in a new neighborhood, I am always looking out for a person who likes the same music as me. Anyone who loves Motown, knows who Better than Ezra is , or is not ashamed to admit that they have wept at a U2 concert, will be probably find a friend in me.
There is no doubt in anyone's mind that music influences us. So, when you come across someone else who is influenced by the same lyrics and melodies as you - you take notice. "Oh? You like this music too? Could you be my person?"
Music helps us find each other.
Music also give us good reason to get together.
I have watched my mother and her friends come alive on wedding dance floors when one of their old favorites is played. Nobody boogies likes Mrs. P boogies - it just takes the right song. The music not only inspires her little posse to kick off their heels and let loose, but it intrinsically sets them apart as a group. As if to say, "This is our song from our time and we belong to each other."
Just last night, my eight old led a choir of her friends in a karaoke of Taylor Swift's "Shake it Off". They danced and sang the song with gusto. This wasn't just "play" . This was making "music" together. Every once in while, when I get fed up hearing that karaoke machine blast through my home, I have to remind myself, "She has so much fun singing with her friends. I will hold off in murdering this machine just a while longer..."
Bottom line: Music helps us find each other and gives us good reason to get together.
So, turn up your music.
You never know who you might find singing along with you.
*For more on music and friendship, listen to Episode 29 of Friending Podcast: THE SOUNDTRACK OF FRIENDSHIP.
Noelle is a speaker, podcaster, and self proclaimed: Friendtor. (Friend +Mentor = Friendtor). She is the podcast producer/host for Friending Podcast and is a regular co-host for the podcast, Slices of Life. She lives in North Jersey with her hot husband and two wild children. She is a big fan of Constant Comment Tea, the Oscars, and Lesley Knope.
Noelle is passionate about helping women find grow in their calling and encourage one another to do the same through the art of friendship. For more random facts on Noelle you can click here or stalk her on Instagram.