"A true friend is somebody who can make us do what we can." Ralph Waldo Emerson
Have you ever had a dream in your heart, so big that to carry it through felt impossible? Would you be surprised to know that your friends have big dreams that feel impossible in their hearts too?
The holy task of a friend is to help her carry her dream.
I interviewed a woman who shared with me that one of her dreams was to become a singer-songwriter. In her early twenties, she became pregnant and was a single mother for years before meeting her now husband. Together, they had three more children and for most of her thirties, she had at least one child in diapers. When she turned forty, she wondered if it was too late to get back to writing music. Through the years, she had tinkered on her guitar and wrote a song or two but she had never played before an audience. Her friend encouraged her to play at an open mic night at the coffee shop in town. She laughed at the idea and told her friend, "My days of music are over!"
The next morning, her friend showed up with a packet of new guitar strings and a note that said, "Your days of music haven't expired. Music is eternal. Start playing."
With this encouragement, she began to write and sing. Six months later, the singer-songwriter woman called her friend to say, "This Saturday, I am going to play at the open mic night at the coffee shop in town." Before she could ask, her friend interrupted, "I'll be there and I'll a bring a fan club."
Just as she promised, her friend was at the open mic night with a large fan club waiting to hear this singer-songwriter's debut. This friend gathered several mutual friends to attend the open mic to show their support. They brought flowers and signs and applauded with whistles and loud hollers after the singer-songwriter played before an audience for the very first time.
"What moved me," the singer-songwriter said, with tears in her eyes, "is that this way not her dream but she carried it as if it were her own."
Galatians 6:2 takes on a deeper meaning for us,
"Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."
A burden is a a heavy load. A dream can feel too overwhelming or too impossible to carry through. It is our wonderful responsibility in friendship, to help shoulder the burden of a friend's dream.
2 REASONS HOW WE ARE QUALIFIED TO HELP CARRY A FRIEND'S DREAM:
1. We know the song in the heart of our friend.
Joan Chittister shares this beautiful quote in her book, "The Friendship of Women: The Hidden Tradition of the Bible":
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can it sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
If we have spent consistent time with our friend, we will know what she likes to do. One of my friends loves to cook lavished meals for her family. I know that one of her dreams is to write a cookbook. When I call her on a snow day, I know to always ask, "What is on your menu?" With great joy and detail, she describes to me what she is cooking. I know that cooking is a song in heart.
2. WE KNOW THE JOURNEY OUR FRIEND HAS BEEN ON.
We know the unique path our friend has walked. We know what has broken her heart and what has been her greatest joy. We know who has been her best support and who always seems to make her feel small. We know her journey which means we have an important perspective that is helpful in carrying her dream.
When we know both the song in our friend's heart and the journey our friend has travelled, we are then well equipped and qualified to help carry her dream.
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When we help carry our friend's dream, we share in her joy and her growth. This is the honor and reward of being a good friend.
Noelle is a researcher, speaker, and podcaster. She is the podcast producer/host for Friending Podcast and is a regular co-host for the podcast, Slices of Life. She lives in North Jersey with her hot husband and two wild children. She is a big fan of Constant Comment Tea, the Oscars, and Lesley Knope.
Noelle is passionate about helping women empower women through the art of friendship.
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